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Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Dating Guys

Is not what its cracked up to be. I thought when I came out of the closet, I would find my knight in shinny armor and he would sweep me off my feet.

Boy was I ever wrong. I have dated guys in the past, but they have so many flaws that I dont want to be around them.

Such as:

Went to a restaurant with this guy, as we are sitting and chatting, his eyes were staring at the waiter.

Went over to a guys house for dinner, but had to leave before that, due to the environment was too nasty for me.

Invited a guy over for dinner and he would not leave. Even after asking him to leave he would not budge.

Dated an older guy and he treated me like I was a dog. Snapped his fingers at me and said sit.

Dated a chef, that would not take a no for an answer. He wanted me to go to the his family reunion. I was his "friend". ugh I was so F*cking board. Everyone there shunned me. I felt so out of place.

this list could go on and on.

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As time has passed the problem just finding someone to date, has been a complete chore.

How to meet someone?

Bars?
I dont go to bars that often, plus I dont want to meet him there. I dont want to date a drunk.

Church?
Umm nope.

Online?
I have tried this in the past, it dont work. Those people dont want to date you they want to rape you.

Parties?
I have only met one person at a party. He and I hit it off, and we have been friends ever since. I wanted to date him, but he said "I would much rather be good friends". We are good friends.

Work?
Hell no. Even though Mr. Bronx thinks he is god's gift to men. He is not anything like my knight.

Coffee House?
I doubt it. But who has the money to sit in a coffee house for hours at a time?
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So the next problem with dating now is HIV+ people that want to lie to you and say they are HIV-. You have to do some checking on them. Or ask them so many questions to find out the truth. And if I have to do that much work just to date a guy then he is not worth it to me.

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Watching out for the freaks. Oh yeah there are some really crazy freaks out there. Their fetishes are just beyond anything, I would even consider.

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I have officially given up on dating. I am over it. I am going to wait for my Knight in shinny armor to sweep me off of my feet.

Allen










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7 comments:

Joann said...

I know the feeling, Allen!! But hey, DON'T give up... I did, it hasn't gotten me ANYWHERE!! LOL!!! If you give up, you just get older while you wait!! Be active in your search, I know it's hard, but he could be anywhere... the mall, the dentist office, the post office.... ANYWHERE you go!! Keep your eyes open!!

Howard said...

Don't give up - take a break if need be, but don't give up. Remember, you had to try on several pairs of pants before you got the ones that fit you just right.

John said...

LOL@ "online guys: they don't want to date you, they want to rape you." Sorry, I know it's not meant to be funny but I is funny!

Maybe I lucked out, because I met Ron in a bar (at the insistence of other friends who called me and said I MUST come to the bar and meet him). Ron is not a drunk and neither am I. Well, that was 23 1/4 years ago, Allen and we have been together ever since meeting in a bar! Almost half my lifetime! Back then, believe me, I was NOT looking for a life partner. AS a matter of fact I thought I was in love with someone else.

So you never know! I always tell people "when you least expect it, that's when it will happen!"

GOOD ADVICE from both Joann and Howard too!

BTW, I just LOVED this blog post! Bravo!

FrankG said...

I know how you feel Allen. Sometimes it does seem hopeless and depressing. However, I think that it is worth the effort. Just like John got dragged out to the bar with friends to meet someone, there are many guys who go to the bars infrequently for a night out. Joann was right too. Open up your eyes and hone your senses. Mr. Right could be looking at you from across the shoe rack at the store (anywhere). You are a good and sweet man and there is someone out there for you.

Michael Rivers said...

Trying to date is so hard. I don't even try. I figure if it happens it happens.

Cubby said...

John's comment is perfectly put.
It's a little bit funny, but sometimes I wish I was single so I could do some dating. But then my single friends all say the same thing you just said, and that snaps me out of it quick! I guess the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.

misslynda said...

You know what Philippians 4:11 says - - "I have learned to be content, whatever the circumstances." Sounds like that is what you are doing by taking the dating break.

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