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Monday, August 17, 2009

Anger

The thing that scares me the most is Anger. Yes you read that right. You cannot have a normal conversation with anger.

Anger changes your face.
Anger shuts off your brain.
Anger causes you pain.
Anger has never resolved anything.
Anger makes your body tense up.
Anger makes you do things that normally you wouldnt.
Anger makes you say things that you did not mean to say.
Anger changes every ones moods almost instantly.
Anger takes your fears away.
Anger causes others pain.
Anger tells you its not your fault.
Anger make your ear's stop working.
Anger changes the tone in your voice.
Anger causes hate.
Anger raises your blood pressure.
Anger makes you think you are in control.

You get the idea. I personally don't deal with anger. I will walk away from it every time. Funny when I do walk away from anger, anger just yells louder thinking that will get my attention.

I had an opportunity to watch two children over the summer. The children were abused by the "dad". The dad did not know how to control his anger. Anger brought stress to this family. Anger broke this family apart.

I really did not know what I was getting myself into when I agreed to watch them. The first day was ruff on me. I expected some anger, but was not expecting this much anger. Each time one would get angry, I would simply say, in a calm voice. "we don't hit the ones we love".

I knew that day, I was not the person for this job. But I was all that they had for right now. I knew I needed information about this subject. I sent out 100 emails to everyone that I knew that have kids. I wanted to know if siblings acted this way. I didn't know cause I don't have brothers or sisters. After I hit the send button, I sat there expecting an email back right then. I don't know why I thought that. I guess, I wanted the information so bad.

You know only 1 person emailed me back. 1 out of 100. Kim is the only one that replied and called me later that day and said, you know what might help, my husband and I teach an anger management course. Would you like to attend one? I jumped at the chance to go.

Kim gave me the date and the class time. I showed up a few minutes early. Since I had no clue what to expect. I walked in and the room was already full. I went to the registration table and met Kim, she greeted me and we chatted for a couple of minutes. She said grab yourself a chair and sit anywhere.

I did just that, but I thought it would be best that I sit in the back of the room. I was only there to observe. Or so I thought. The instructor, tries to get everyone involved. As the class was coming to an end, the instructor said any last thoughts? One man said "you know it is easier to get angry than to deal with it". How true is that statement?

I did get a couple of good ideas from the class. Like teaching the kids that anger is a choice.

The next time I saw them, I sat us all down, took out the crayons and had all of us make Anger signs. We colored for the better part of an hour. We talked about anger and how we have the choice to be angry or not. When we finished our signs, I said follow me. We walked to the front door and I opened the door and said now throw your anger out the door. We all threw them out. I said " now all of our anger is outside of this house. "

The next thing, I taught them sign language. They loved it so much that they begged their mom to get books from the library so that they could learn. I did this for a couple of reasons, so that they could learn something new and it was a way for me to control their anger. When their anger would rise up, I would sign to them, "what is wrong?" if they did not know a word I would have them look it up in the book. By the time that they figured out what I had said, their anger was almost gone. The rest of it would leave when they had to look up what was wrong and sign it to me.

Both of the kids are back in school now. From what the mom tells me, they are doing really good.

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7 comments:

Pat said...

You know, Allen, most of our parents fly by the seat of our pants. My kids are grown now, thankfully, and as I look back on their childhood, I realize I made mistakes. But I tried my best. They turned out to be pretty good kids. I give you credit for taking this kids on and trying YOUR BEST with them. They are damaged, through no fault of their own. It was a GREAT idea to teach them signing, and in turn, to divert their attention from their anger to something else. KUDOS to you for that! You were probably a great influence on them this summer.

misslynda said...

Have you thought about being a teacher? You sound like a natural for it. Our pastor's message was on anger yesterday morning. It was great!

Anonymous said...

Good article. Keep posting Allen. I noticed that you've set a really good goal for your life. Any idea on how to achieve it?
- Deran Dominic, Admin, HostanyImage.com

Allen said...

@Pat, Thanks for stopping back by. I enjoy your comments. I hope I did a good job. I did however learn a lot about anger. I want to do what you do, I want to get an R.V. and hit the road too. Your stories are very cool.

@ Misslynda, I have thought about being a teacher, my mom was one for special ed children. She enjoyed it very much.

@ Deran - Hey thanks for stopping by. As far as my goal, I am guessing if I come up with an awesome website like yours I should make it in no time. =o)

I will put the link here for you http://hostanyimage.com

Wonder Man said...

glad to hear they are doing better

Allen said...

Thanks Wonder Man!

Deran Dominic said...

Great, let me know if I can be any help for you.
Good luck!

- Deran Dominic

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